(11-02-2020, 10:48 AM)ScottyB Wrote:Apoc Wrote:FWIW, most people I've known in Seattle that didn't have family near and had a kid returned back home. They do it because they realized kids are fucking terrible without grandparent help, but that also means adult children are around to help parents when they age.
this hits close to home for us. we've basically been an "island" for the last 5 years, 7 hrs from both parents. its really tough sometimes to see your neighbors do cool shit all the time because they can just dump the kids off at mom n' dads any day of the week because they live 2 streets over. quality childcare is an all-in thing and man does it add up. the crap you do for a good job...
i do worry about my parents more now, though. i don't ever want to live 5 minutes away, but close enough i can get over to see them whenever it fits our schedule.
Kaan - your mom doing OK right now or still battling?
Going rate for childcare is $20+/hour here. If we want to see a movie, back when there were such things, it was a $100 ordeal excluding any eats/drinks before the show. I can't imagine a scenario where we'd choose to live closer to family, but we're lucky in that we can afford an occasional date night... when there were such things.
All my mom's siblings lived closed to her mom and they rarely visited her in her old age. It seems to be hit or miss, depending on the family. They *were* able to drive her to appointments and such, so I guess there's always that.
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"Here, at last, is the cure for texting while driving. The millions of deaths which occur every year due to the iPhone’s ability to stream the Kim K/Ray-J video in 4G could all be avoided, every last one of them, if the government issued everyone a Seventies 911 and made sure they always left the house five minutes later than they’d wanted to. It would help if it could be made to rain as well. Full attention on the road. Guaranteed." -Jack Baruth